We don’t often realise it, but the way we speak to ourselves matters deeply. The tone of your inner voice can shape how you feel, how you behave, and even who you believe you are.
Most of us grew up seeing ourselves through other people’s eyes our parents, teachers, friends. They became our social mirror, as sociology describes and over time, their words became our self-talk. If they were critical, dismissive, or distant, we often internalised those messages. That voice may now sound like:
“I’m not good enough.”
“Why bother?”
But here’s what I’ve learned through therapy and what I now teach others:
That voice can change. Like any habit, it takes awareness, effort, and compassion but it’s absolutely possible.
Why Positive Self-Talk Matters
Positive self-talk isn’t about ignoring your struggles or pretending everything’s fine. It’s about choosing to speak to yourself the way you would to someone you care about. With respect. With hope. With belief in your ability to grow.
When you start shifting that internal voice even slightly it impacts your:
– Self-esteem
– Self-image
– Decisions and behaviours
You begin to see yourself not through the lens of past criticism, but with fresh eyes. You move from surviving to living.
What the Brain Says About It
Neuropsychology shows us that the brain responds powerfully to verbal input. The things we say out loud or even silently to ourselves trigger emotional and behavioural reactions.
When you tell yourself, “I’m a failure,” your brain believes it.
When you say, “I can handle this,” your brain believes that too and responds accordingly.
Change Begins in the Morning
We often wake up in autopilot checking our phones, rushing into the day, already stressed. But change happens when we pause. When we become present.
One of the easiest ways to begin shifting your self-talk is to win your morning:
1. Wake up slowly
2. Go to the bathroom, look in the mirror
3. Repeat 2–3 affirmations with confidence
4. Say them like you believe them your brain is listening
A Few of My Favourite Affirmations
– “Today is my lucky day.”
– “I am a champion.”
– “I am a winner.”
– “I am calm, grounded, and capable.”
– “I am not my past I’m creating my future.”
– “God is with me.”
One Thought at a Time
You don’t have to “fix” everything at once. Just begin with your words. Choose a kinder sentence today. Repeat it tomorrow. Your self-talk is not your destiny — it’s your starting point.
And yes, today can be your lucky day.
With love,
Angel founder of FwsRewrite
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